Surrendered wife

I’ve recently stumbled about surrendered wife on the net. The principles of a surrendered wife is to give up unnecessary control and responsibility, express their needs while also respecting their husband choices, resist the temptation to criticize, belittle or dismiss their husbands & trust their husbands in every aspect of their marriage be from sexual to financial.

I think it is so important that you completely trust your husband because without trust you will always doubt him and even if he meant what he said you will always think that he is lying or something like that. Distrust in a marriage is destruction in a plain sense; no marriage can ever survive with it. That is also the main reason why very few marriages will ever survive when it comes to infidelity. It can be repaired but it takes a lot of work to ever survive that. Trust is the hardest thing to build and the easiest thing to destroy. Trusting him in making decision is also very difficult especially if there are times in your marriage where wives experience failed expectations. In the overall trusting again is difficult to achieve but if you do value your marriage you will try to do it. Trusting will also relieve you of unnecessary burden because you will no longer think of negative thoughts in your marriage.

I think also when you resist the temptation to criticize, belittle or dismiss your husbands they will not be easily tempted with other women who will accept and appreciate them. I think the reason why we fall in love in the first place is when we feel appreciated and that the other person will make us feel good about our self. We sometimes forget that as human we needed to be appreciated and to feel good about our self. A simple complement like you look good, you smell good and I’m so proud to be your wife goes a long way to let them feel good about themselves.

I also notice that when you take control of your marriage, finances and responsibilities it can be very burdensome and you get angry all the time but when you let your husband take the responsibility it will be much easier and lighter for you. It is also an advantage when your husband helps you in the house chores because it will be easier on your part in fulfilling your career.

My son is in Preschool

This month our masteral class for Masters in Business Administration has already started.  I think it's been 8 years since I last go to school though I'm a graduate of Bachelor of science in Accountancy in the year 1999, I've attended classes for two years to earn Education Units to take the Teachers Licensure exam last 2002.  I think it's quite new to me and exciting to go to class again and to learn new knowledge.  My first subject for this month is Math for business and statistics.  Fortunately my teacher for this class is also my teacher in college so she knows me already even if my surname has changed because I'm already married.  It also has its disadvantages though because she knows me she always calls me during board work.  I plan to finish my MBA by March of 2012 because my baby girl will be in Preschool by then.  Right now my son Zen is already in Preschool and sad enough because I'm working I was not able to go with him there but I'm still fortunate because he has his Grandma to accompany him there.  I'm so happy that he already knows how to write.  I missed him though because I don't have him all the time.  He lives with his grandma because right now I can't afford two nannies and I can't also trust one nanny to take care of my two children.  He is now four years old and even if I seldom see him and my heart is sometimes longing for him.  I always say to myself no matter what that he is my son and one day we will be together when he is old enough to take care of himself or until such time that we can afford to build our house near his grandma.  Like every one else in this world I'm struggling to have it all but I know life is like this you have to experience the hard part first before you can be successful, unless your parents are filthy rich then life could have been easier.  That could be another story anyway.

offline for so long

I miss being online but there are things that I should do first before regularly blogging again.  I've been busy lately with my marriage, family and work.  I've been planning to enroll in graduate study this month and I hope I can handle all the stress and also financially cope up with the school fees.  I really need to be a permanent employee because I needed financial stability at my age and also in order to provide for my family's needs well.  I love my job and the company I work with that is why as a mother I have to sacrifice my time for my family to achieve my goal.  Anyway thanks for visiting my blog and I hope some day I will be able to regularly blog again.  I really like blogging because for me it is kind of a release from the daily grind.