Marriage, Career and Motherhood

What I really liked about my job is it doesn’t require too much of me and it is not so stressful. It also gives me financial capacity to buy what I want for myself, a kind of freedom that I don’t have to ask my husband for everything. It is also an outlet entirely different from the home. It is a social surrounding for me where I get to interact with other people and to learn new things.

Marriage is one of my goals in life, why? It gives me a sense of direction and purpose. It’s a feeling that you belong to a family of your own and it offers me security and contentment. It is a feeling that at the end of the day you have someone to go home to and give you love and comfort. Motherhood makes marriage even better because a child binds you together even more. I noticed that a child can lessen stress in marriage especially in our relationship.

Balancing marriage, career and motherhood is not always easy but it can be done. When you are working you have to focus your mind in your work and do it well. When you go home you have to forget your work and focus your attention to your family. I’m a working mom so I don’t get to be with my child from 8:00 am to 5:00 pm five days a week so I make it a point to go straight home. I also noticed that when you spend quality time with your child it really matters. I have to feed him dinner and watch TV with him afterwards give him his good night hot bath and we sleep together. We have fun having pillow fights and I give him his nightly aromatic massage. In the morning when he wakes up he comes to our bed to lay with me and his papa for awhile and I hug and kiss him. I feed and bathe him before I go to work every morning. It becomes a routine for us. In this way he still feels me and my love for him.

In marriage the most important thing is communication, endearment and physical connection. Your career and motherhood takes your time away from your husband but quality time spent is more important than quantity. A simple call and text will do just to remind him that you are thinking of him. A kiss and hug every day is enough to make him feel that I love him. I make it a habit to say “I love you” in the morning and say it again in the evening when we went home from work.

Sudarshan Kriya – Breathing technique

Have you heard of Sudarshan Kriya? It comes from the Sanskrit words su (right), darshan (vision) and kriya (purifying action), It is a rhythmical breathing that allows a healthy and pleasant mind to produce positive chemical messengers that travel from the nervous system to the immune system. It is a fact that breathing reflects how one feels; it is affected by emotions. Breathing when happy is never the same when one is frightened. The Sudarshan Kriya reintroduces the natural rhythms of breathing before it was disrupted by a surge of negative emotions.

It’s quite true that thoughts and emotions have a powerful impact on the brain, affecting endocrine and the immune system. Chemical messengers called neuropeptides are released with each emotion. So a positive emotion affects the body in a positive way, improving resistance to disease and well-being. As always stress is a culprit to certain diseases so it’s important to fight it. Usually stress comes to us if we think to much of our future and the outcome of what we are doing today. We need to relax and be positive that everything will be okay. That is why I also like yoga exercises although it is entirely different to Sudarshan Kriya. One of its similarity is it promotes peace and relaxation.

Finally my 36th weeks

I’m so pleased that finally I’ve reached my 36th weeks and my baby will be okay if I give birth after this. My maternity leave will take effect on July 7, 2008 and according to my ultrasound report I will be expected to give birth on July 22-25, 2008. I will be expected to get back to work by September 8, 2008. I think I will give birth a week earlier like my first child. I have mixed emotions now as it comes nearer and my anticipation to see my baby is making me a bit nervous. I’m again thinking of the pain that goes with labor and as always I’m afraid of it. Well at least I’m not the only one who is afraid of it. I’m just hoping for the best and pray that everything will be alright and that the pain will be tolerable. I also hope and pray that my baby will be okay and normal. Finally I will see my baby girl in about 2-3 weeks from now.