Jun 30, 2008

Dealing with anger

Why do people get angry? Well people just get angry if they don’t get what they want or they did not get what they have expected to get. People get angry if they don’t get others to do what they want them to do. We may also get angry if we think that we have been dealt with unfairly but I supposed that is what life is.

How do you deal with anger? Some people whine, shout, cry or do terrible things but who do you think gets hurt in the end? Well it is still the one who gets angry. We may shout that life is unfair but does it change anything. Well nothing can really hurt you but yourself. Acceptance is the only key to this dilemma. Acceptance that you are not omnipotent but you are just one of the characters in a story called life. Accept life as it is and do what you can to change what you can. Just remember you can’t change anyone the only thing you can change is yourself. You can’t change the weather for one thing and certainly you can’t change someone because believe it or not they have a choice of their own. Their personality is a product of their life’s experiences, upbringing and even their inherited genes. Look at life positively; change the things that you can and accept the things or situation that you can’t change.

Jun 29, 2008

Marriage, Career and Motherhood

What I really liked about my job is it doesn’t require too much of me and it is not so stressful. It also gives me financial capacity to buy what I want for myself, a kind of freedom that I don’t have to ask my husband for everything. It is also an outlet entirely different from the home. It is a social surrounding for me where I get to interact with other people and to learn new things.

Marriage is one of my goals in life, why? It gives me a sense of direction and purpose. It’s a feeling that you belong to a family of your own and it offers me security and contentment. It is a feeling that at the end of the day you have someone to go home to and give you love and comfort. Motherhood makes marriage even better because a child binds you together even more. I noticed that a child can lessen stress in marriage especially in our relationship.

Balancing marriage, career and motherhood is not always easy but it can be done. When you are working you have to focus your mind in your work and do it well. When you go home you have to forget your work and focus your attention to your family. I’m a working mom so I don’t get to be with my child from 8:00 am to 5:00 pm five days a week so I make it a point to go straight home. I also noticed that when you spend quality time with your child it really matters. I have to feed him dinner and watch TV with him afterwards give him his good night hot bath and we sleep together. We have fun having pillow fights and I give him his nightly aromatic massage. In the morning when he wakes up he comes to our bed to lay with me and his papa for awhile and I hug and kiss him. I feed and bathe him before I go to work every morning. It becomes a routine for us. In this way he still feels me and my love for him.

In marriage the most important thing is communication, endearment and physical connection. Your career and motherhood takes your time away from your husband but quality time spent is more important than quantity. A simple call and text will do just to remind him that you are thinking of him. A kiss and hug every day is enough to make him feel that I love him. I make it a habit to say “I love you” in the morning and say it again in the evening when we went home from work.

Jun 28, 2008

Sudarshan Kriya – Breathing technique

Have you heard of Sudarshan Kriya? It comes from the Sanskrit words su (right), darshan (vision) and kriya (purifying action), It is a rhythmical breathing that allows a healthy and pleasant mind to produce positive chemical messengers that travel from the nervous system to the immune system. It is a fact that breathing reflects how one feels; it is affected by emotions. Breathing when happy is never the same when one is frightened. The Sudarshan Kriya reintroduces the natural rhythms of breathing before it was disrupted by a surge of negative emotions.

It’s quite true that thoughts and emotions have a powerful impact on the brain, affecting endocrine and the immune system. Chemical messengers called neuropeptides are released with each emotion. So a positive emotion affects the body in a positive way, improving resistance to disease and well-being. As always stress is a culprit to certain diseases so it’s important to fight it. Usually stress comes to us if we think to much of our future and the outcome of what we are doing today. We need to relax and be positive that everything will be okay. That is why I also like yoga exercises although it is entirely different to Sudarshan Kriya. One of its similarity is it promotes peace and relaxation.

Jun 27, 2008

Finally my 36th weeks

I’m so pleased that finally I’ve reached my 36th weeks and my baby will be okay if I give birth after this. My maternity leave will take effect on July 7, 2008 and according to my ultrasound report I will be expected to give birth on July 22-25, 2008. I will be expected to get back to work by September 8, 2008. I think I will give birth a week earlier like my first child. I have mixed emotions now as it comes nearer and my anticipation to see my baby is making me a bit nervous. I’m again thinking of the pain that goes with labor and as always I’m afraid of it. Well at least I’m not the only one who is afraid of it. I’m just hoping for the best and pray that everything will be alright and that the pain will be tolerable. I also hope and pray that my baby will be okay and normal. Finally I will see my baby girl in about 2-3 weeks from now.

Jun 24, 2008

Pregnancy at the 8th month

I’m already 8 months pregnant and will be at my 36th week this coming Friday. I will be relieved if I surpassed my 36th weeks because it would already be safe for my baby to be born after that time. This month is so uncomfortable because I can feel her weight and I already have backaches. It’s also difficult at night because I already have contractions and sometimes when she moves inside me I can feel pain. At night I often wake up because I have to urinate often because my baby already crowds my bladder. My varicose veins also got worse as my pregnancy progresses. My ankles and my feet swells and there is nothing I can do about it. It’s also difficult to pick up objects during this time and cleaning my nails on my feet is an acrobatic move. I’m so relieved that at least I have not experienced hemorrhoid again during this pregnancy that is because I eat papaya and avocado always. It helps prevent constipation aside from giving you vitamins, beta carotene and folic acid.

What I always dreaded about my pregnancy is that after 36th weeks my doctor will already perform IE and for me it’s the most painful and uncomfortable procedure aside from giving birth and pop smear in pregnancy. IE is a procedure where the doctor inserts her hand into your cervix to measure if it is already fully dilated. At 10 cm wide it is the right time to give birth to your baby. In my first child I have experienced my first IE and it’s very painful that I bleed a little and after two days my water broke and I give birth to my baby. I was administered with a medicine to induce childbirth because it would take to long for me to give birth naturally.

Anyway, even if I’m afraid I have to face this because there is no other way to get my baby and besides every mother have experienced it. My mother once told me that when you give birth to your baby it is like having your other feet buried six feet below the ground because just one mistake and you are dead. She told me that and I have four siblings so even if she knows the risks she still did it.

Jun 11, 2008

Strengthen your heart

Stress is the main culprit of heart diseases but we can’t deny that our lifestyle also contributes to it. There are just simple steps to maintain a healthy heart and here it is. Consume high concentrations of alpha-linolenic acid- a polysaturated fat from the same family of fatty acids found in fish. This good oil may decrease the risk of stroke and improves viscosity and clotting of blood.

You have to eat right the easiest way is to remove saturated fats also known as fats from animals in your diet and load up on vegetables and fruits. You can also eat oats because this fiber is proven to wash out bad cholesterol in our system. Drink plenty of water it helps maintain your body’s right ph. Did you know that dehydration and high levels of acidity in your body is a symptom of innumerable diseases?

Try to relax and don’t let stress get into you. You can try to take up a hobby, exercise program, meditate and relax or get yourself a pet. It will draw your focus toward affection and caring. You also need to have a regular exercise program. I can honestly say that I liked yoga because it’s stretching and breathing exercises helps me acquire balance. The meditation also helps calm my nerves and expel stress. A way to strengthen our heart muscles is to exercise so just make sure that you like your exercise program so you can stick to it.

Jun 1, 2008

My top ten list of father’s day gifts

I have a few suggestions for father’s day gifts that I know will make them feel special during this day. Here are my top ten lists:

1. Wrist Watch – You can choose a watch that can match up to their personality or it also depends on what occasion that they choose to wear a watch.
2. Neck tie – Choose color and design that match their work and interest, Don’t forget their favorite color
3. Perfume – I specially like a combination of musk and citrus scents but anyway choose a scent that you know they will absolutely like. Don’t forget they like scents that a woman would also compliment on.
4. Belt – I like leather belts, It looks good on anything and It’s classy too. Brown or black would complement any clothes. Combination of black and brown will also be classy.
5. Leather Wallet – Looks good and beneficial.
6. Cell Phone – It’s pretty expensive but I’ve receive this gift from my husband and it feels so good to receive this kind of gift. It’s quite useful too.
7. Handkerchiefs
8. Polo Shirt
9. White Shirts or White sleeveless shirts – He can use this every day
10. Brief or Boxer shorts

Don’t forget the most precious gift that you can give them is your time, love and affection. Actually hugs and kisses will do.


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