May 23, 2008

Is it better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all?

This is my comment on a question posted by Tot’s Mom on Love Q. Well on my part it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all because what is the point of living if you have not experienced loving someone. Naturally it would hurt because it is the price of loving. Loving someone means to open up our self emotionally and in the process leaving us vulnerable.
It is when we care for that someone that we wanted to be involved in their life because we want what’s best for them. Sometimes we forget that they have a mind of their own and it is still their life and in the end it is still their decision that matters. It is also true that people just change their mind including their heart in loving someone. There are factors for these but the person who knows the reason is the one who have a change of heart.

These could be acceptable if there is still no marriage but once married it is a different story. The vow that the couples exchanged on their matrimonial ceremony is a pact for life. It is a decision that mirrors the person doing the contract and they must mean what they said during that day and their commitment must stay even if the feelings change. If love is just a feeling it is not considered true and it could just be lust and sexual attraction.

Now let’s get back to the main point why it is much better to love and lost than to never to have loved at all? I could not imagine my life without love because first of all I was born out of love. My parents loved each other and decided to have a family to love and cherish. Having me as a child brought them joy just like what my son has given me. So if my mother was a coward and decided not to marry my father then she could not have experienced the joy and the pain of motherhood. The joy and the pain of loving and be loved by someone who means the most to us. Although it may not last forever but what matters most is that we experienced it in our lifetime.

What I mean by this is I understand that we only have one lifetime to live when we die what will become of us? If we are Christians it is written in the bible that if we are faithful we will be given eternal life to live and serve the lord. It is also clearly stated in the Holy Scriptures that the eternal life that will be given to us will be different from that of our life here on earth. Entirely different that we will no longer need a husband or a wife, or a son or a daughter but we will live as one family of God.


Tot's Mom said...

Yes, I agree that is the price we have to pay and the risk we have to put ourselves into when it comes to love. No pain, no gain as they say and life is always an adventure - we take the good with the bad. Anyway, thanks for your answer and I note that you have left quite a few comments at my blog. Sorry that you have to type it out a few times. Actually, when your comment doesn't appear, it just means it has been erroneously marked as spam. I just need to de-spam it and it will be there. :)

JO-N said...

Wow, I love your answer. It's very detailed and true too. Mine is up as well if you would like to read.

Catherine said...

You r right. When there is no love, there's no meaning in life. But we should pursue for an eternal love - love with commitment, sacrifice and tolerance but not the selfish love.

Amidrin said...

I like your answer on this week's Love Q. Wonderfully said.


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